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Sunday, December 23, 2012

The Truth About Outdated Habits and Teachings

Don't be afraid of Love. It will never lead you astray!
Dearest Reader,

In a world where we have been programmed and indoctrinated to believe that skepticism, fear, guilt, obligation and doubt are useful thought patterns and emotions, it goes without saying why we find difficulty in being happy, peaceful and powerful beings who are in control of their destinies, because all these emotions that we have been taught to feel go against everything that is good about life.

We have been taught that if things are good, they are too good to be true. We have been taught that if we are not afraid, we are heading in the wrong direction. We have been taught that hard work is better than smart work. We have been taught that if things are not painful or challenging, they are not real or long lasting.

Personally, I think that there is some truth in what we have been taught but there is a big lie too in what we have been taught. You see, they don't tell us that the reason why good, long lasting relationships have a degree of difficulty is because life is cyclical and energy ebbs and flows. This means that, in a long term, healthy relationship, there will be times of euphoria which wane over time to be replaced by times of difficulty. The difficulties, just like the happiness are temporary, and both come and go. So, if you are unhappy all the time in your personal relationship, it doesn't mean that it is healthy, because it is not changing. So, to think that this is a good thing is to lie to yourself. But, to have periods of unhappiness in a happy relationship is very natural. This is because life is ever changing, and these changes are everlasting. These changes are part of your growth and part of your relationship's growth.

For a new cycle to be birthed, some labour pains will be experienced. For strength to be attained, the precursor is pain. For longevity to be attained, some changes need to be experienced.

Therefore, good things are not too good to be true. Good things merely don't last. Good things get interrupted by life dramas and the goodness may seem to have left, but it always returns. So, just be patient through the tough times and meditate on the new goodness that awaits you around the corner. Fear is not a prerequisite to happiness, but fear makes us aware of the downside of our actions and therefore, it is useful. Fear is only useful if it doesn't stop us from going after our dreams, desires and happiness. So, if you are not afraid of being in love, if you are not afraid of taking risks, and if you are not afraid of rejection and disappointment, but are aware that the opposite of your desires might happen, and you go ahead and do it anyway, then you are acting healthily. That is why they say that without fear we are being foolish, because fear shows us where not to go. If you know where not to go without fear, you don't need to be afraid.

Lastly, we have been taught that working hard, and suffering through situations is how we get what we desire. This is not true. The truth is, things that come without a challenge are not satisfying, and they are not easy to honour and protect. That is all. We don't need to work hard to get what we desire. But, we may have to work hard to keep what we have attained. That is why we have been taught to honour hard work. If you can attain and keep the things you attain without working hard for them, then you don't have to work hard for them. Fear is to protect us, not to prevent us from acting. So, if there is a war, fear is your armour which protects you from possible danger, it is not what makes us not go to war. When fear prevents us from going to the proverbial war, it no longer serves us. Also, fear is temporary. If it lasts longer than a day, it is no longer healthy fear which protects you from possible danger.
This is so me! LOL!

The point to this post is this:

We have been taught many things without knowing why the teachings are valid. This has lead us astray because we go through unnecessary pain when we can enjoy our ride towards success and happiness. We don't have to be afraid, we don't have to work hard, and we don't have to be unhappy to get what we desire. We merely have to be grateful for the things we desire and for the things we attain to keep them. What is the easiest way to learn gratitude? It is through knowing the pain, loss and difficulty of losing what we desire. The fact is, many people have learned to be grateful. So, they don't need to take the long route to get their desires. They no longer have to hesitate to go for what they desire because they have learned how to honour and respect their desires.

So, contextualize and make practical the things you desire, whether it is love, peace and/.or power. Once you have done that, you will see that acting through what you have been taught or through habit, might no longer be necessary because you know better now. You know better than to be afraid, guilty, obligated, doubtful or hard on yourself. You know better to embrace a good thing when it comes into your life, and you know better to welcome gifts, blessings and love into your life without delay or without pushing it away. You are grown up to appreciate goodness instead of fear the good things. You are good enough to have good things and be in a good space of mind. You deserve happiness without bending over backwards for it because you have learned to appreciate, respect, honour and enjoy love, peace and power.

Thanks for reading

Veronnica Wolpendz
Love, Peace and Power.
Lover, Loved and Winner.

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